Six Hard Truths One Learns With Time



When we’re young, the world for the most part is friendly enough. The neighbor gives you candy, you might have a favorite uncle, and the adult world is a place where you can sleep at whatever time you want and eat ice cream if you just so happen to feel like it. But then you grow older and things start changing; some gradually, and some almost overnight. Then the hard truths of life begin to hit you, one by one. Although everyone’s life is unique, there are some events that we will always have in common.

People Will Hurt You For No Reason

We choose the company we keep, but some people will be in our lives whether we want them to or not. This includes classmates, colleagues, acquaintances, and even people that we trust. You can be the sweetest, most harmless person in the world, but some people will hurt you, and for no reason other than the fact that they can. Don’t worry – you’ll be a better person because of it.


Happily-Ever-After Comes With A Price

Happily ever after happens to princesses in Disneyland, not in real life. Marriages / long-term relationships are full of struggles that are unique to the couple, and you won’t ride off happily into the sunset if you don’t work, work, work on it to make it happen. You will fight, bicker, sometimes even contemplate leaving, but as they say; a relationship that lasts after situations that are meant to break couples apart only grow stronger. Don’t worry – you’ll be more grounded because of it.


You Are Not Special

It’s a great thing to tell your kids, but in the real world, you’re only as special as the value you give people. If you don’t benefit people in some way, they will most likely drop you like a hot potato. Careers, university admission, life, and friendships are based on what you can bring to the table, not what you think of yourself. It’s worse if you were a spoiled child, because your doting parents may see you as special without you having to do pretty much anything, but nobody else will. Don’t worry – you’ll be more aware because of it.


Working Smart Will Always Triumph Working Hard

In India, I once saw a line of women working on a construction site, placing baskets of rocks on their heads and walking to and from a quarry. They make $3.00 a day. We’ve always been encouraged to work hard, but as you navigate your life, you realize that many, many sleepless nights, stressful days, and even times when you’re too exhausted to stand will get you nowhere. Instead, working smart to get the same output for minimal work will serve you much better in the long run. Don’t worry – you’ll be more productive because of it.


You Can’t Take Back Your Words Or Actions

We are all participants of a race we never chose to be in. Sometimes we get fed up and act out, our anger seemingly justified. You will find that people for the most part, neither forgive nor forget. They can and most likely will remember something for a lifetime, so choose your words wisely, because they have a major impact now and forever. Don’t worry – you’ll be smarter because of it.

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You Are Your Own Best Friend

You can’t let yourself down – remember that. Instead of working on superficial relationships, work on yourself to be the best you can be. Whatever life throws at you, learn how to take it instead of depending on someone to help you through it. You know yourself best. Don’t give your heart to someone who has no qualms stepping on it, breaking it, and breaking you. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. Don’t worry – you’ll be FREE because of it.


They say that the race is long, but in the end, it’s only with yourself. Life can be beautiful and full of positivity, and that’s the way it should be. But life can also be hard and not clear at times, and you will fumble and fall. That’s okay. Pick yourself up and try again.


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2 Responses

  1. Sheryl says:

    All dead on. I agree with each point you made. It is scary that people tell their children otherwise. I truly believe this is why we have all these kids that are lazy and disrespectful. They feel like they are so special that they don’t have to work and the world should serve them. Keep it real. Build strong, independent kids. I love your points. Thanks for sharing.

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      I agree Sheryl, it’s like common sense and good manners re a thing of the past – and especially with entitled children

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