Your Personality Based On Your Social Media Use

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You can tell a lot about people based on their social media use, and there are actually specific behavior patters that more likely than not, end up to be accurate portrayals of a problematic personality type. Some posts on social media are obvious and don’t really mean anything; like hobbies and interests and what kind of lifestyle people like others to believe they have. But sometimes, there are posts and specific behavior that can be an accurate projection of how people really feel towards both themselves and others. What’s interesting is that social media has now presented us with a new window to analyze our behavior on a relatively very new platform, one that greatly differs from any other method in history.

The problem is that we share haphazardly, not consciously and with a sense of purpose. That information, whether it’s a serious post or a picture of you on acid in Nevada, can be detrimental to your reputation and how others perceive you. And no, we’re not talking about morals here; this can affect business prospects and can be used as evidence against you in courts of law. It’s that widespread and that effective, your social media use. It’s completely due to our voluntary actions of sharing, liking, posting, and commenting. Even people who don’t post often (enough) can be assessed to deduce the reason behind their lack of interaction. Here are some common social media habits and what they may tell us about ourselves and others:

Are You Tagged Often? People Think Highly Of You

If you find yourself tagged often on social media (by people other than your family members), it basically means that people think you’re awesome. The better news is that they like your personality and you aren’t seen as a person with a stick up your ass.  The agreeableness factor goes a long way in social situations, and being tagged constantly is one byproduct of that. 

That Friend Who Posts 300 Selfies / Week? Meet The Narcissist

People who post several pictures of themselves daily or on a constant basis need validation from their social media audience in order to feel better about themselves. This behavior has been associated with narcissism, an extreme form of self-centeredness that according to Psychology Today, includes “ an excessive need to be admired by others and have a sense of entitlement”. So basically, narcissists feel like shit if you don’t like their 14th selfie. Narcissists are also more likely to edit and enhance their pictures, and often like the pictures of others to receive likes themselves.  Science!

Constant Posts of How Good A Person’s Life Is? S/he Has Low Self-Esteem

People who never fail to post on their social media profiles where they went, what they ate, checked-in, and completely awesome their life is are more likely to have self-esteem issues than those who don’t, researchers say. In other words, the reason why some people post excessively about their possessions and whereabouts (car, jewelry, vacations, partying) do it because they feel good when people acknowledge that they have them and “reward” them with likes and comments. Likewise, it is a mechanism to prove that a person is worthy of love. This is giving your social media audience permission to determine whether they enjoy themselves or not. If you find yourself relating to this, love yourself first and foremost. No matter what people think of you, people’s minds change in a second. Enjoy your life first and foremost, and never give anyone the power or key to your happiness.


Joint Social Media Account? Someone Has Trust Issues

Partners who don’t trust their significant others are more likely to have one social media account for both of them. Not really surprising, but interesting nonetheless in how controlling behavior manifests in a seemingly innocent gesture of togetherness. If you’re in denial that this isn’t write; consider why – either you hinted heavily at it or your partner did. This behavior is controlling behavior regardless of who came up with the idea, since partners need their space. By creating a joint Facebook account, it decreases the liklihood that one partner will communicate with or have habits that the other partner does not approve of. It’s sometimes a subtle method and other times an outright tool of control that one partner may be ignorant of, under the guise of shared interests and audience.

More than 300 Facebook Friends? People Don’t Take You Seriously

Most people on this earth have a limited circle of close friends. The rest are acquaintances – big difference. Research has found that a person with over 300 friends on social media causes people to think less of an individual. To be clear, this isn’t related to business owners, celebrities, or employees who need thousands of friends / subscribers for business purposes such as blogging or promotion. This is specifically aimed at those who add people randomly to gain numbers, not relationships. Unfortunately for them, research gives them the side-eye, indicating that having too many friends that one does not know is directly linked to low-self esteem.

Posting Too Little Or Barely at All? Paranoid Narcissism

Paranoid Narcissists face a seemingly common problem, and that is an irrational fear that they are always being watched or judged by others; whether it’s by the government or their extended family members. In an attempt to remain seemingly aloof; paranoid narcissists would rather not post at all than post and be susceptible to the opinion of others. They are however, active on social media and use it daily for other purposes. This is actually a type of personality based on social media use – or to be more accurate, based on their non-use.

As we increase our online presence and share more and more about our lives, it’s important to remember that this is a virtual reality and not by any mean a real one. In the pursuit of maintaining a perfect façade or one that is envied by others, we are losing sight of the bigger picture, that memories aren’t made on the keyboard or by tapping a screen; but by talking and touching, living and being with others.

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20 Responses

  1. Antonio says:

    Wow! Hiba that was fantastic! What a great read. 🙂

  2. Keating says:

    Great post! The joint social media count really gets me haha my husband has a friend who shares a Facebook account with his wife. I don’t get it and it bothers me a lot more than it should. If there’s trust issues, then why be married? If you met the guy, you’d be just as confused as we are as to why she makes him have a joint account with her.

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      Thank you Keating, you made me laugh with your comment. I don’t like it at all and always thought it was weird, and when I was doing my research, I saw how indicative it can be of how the couple functions 🙂

  3. sue says:

    Interesting and a fun read. I was waiting for the ‘always moaning’ one as I feel many of my personal FB posts are me ranting and raving about something (like the hour on the live chat IT help today that was useless) Im hoping that selfies are loosing their popularity, as I had read about them being linked to narcissism – a fact I pointed out to my daughters 🙂

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      Haha the moaning one! Those are the different Facebook personality types – I will be making a list like that soon 😉 But do we all have them? Absolutely

  4. Haha! I do have around 1,000 facebook friends… and I will admit there are people on there that I don’t remember who they are. I do a lot of things like go to conferences and do plays where I meet people and I’m close to them for a couple of months, but then we don’t really see each other ever again. But I still leave them on facebook 😉

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      Becky! That part was only for those who do not have businesses or promotional needs. I have since edited the post to reflect that 🙂

  5. Hm. Wonder where bloggers fit into the mix as some sponsors want to know how many FB friends you have in addition to the followers on your page.

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      Hey there, I have since edited the part to reflect that it does not apply for those who need the thousands of friends for business or promotional purposes 🙂

  6. This is so interesting. I know people that have over a thousand friends on facebook and I’m always like really? But then again these are people that travel all over the world and I”m sure people at conferences and such. Wow, such a great read!

  7. Liz Mays says:

    I guess I should be thankful I don’t see myself in any of the profile types you featured. But I do recognize some people. 😉

  8. I think I’m a little of all of them. Lol

    • Hiba Boutari says:

      Donna, all of these apply ONLY if they are excessive 🙂 We all post pictures of ourselves and have friends, but too much of a good thing as they say 😉

  9. I don’t think over 300 Facebook friends means someone is desperate – I happen to know a lot of people and have a very large family so that makes up a ton of people 🙂

  10. Autumn says:

    I don’t think all of these things are necessarily as negative as they are here. However, they can be an indicator. I know very few people who have a facebook friend list under 300. Someone who posts infrequently could also just be enjoying life or very busy, too!

  11. eliz frank says:

    I had a good chuckle with this post. Isn’t it amazing how far we have come with social media today? Frankly, if I could turn back the clock, I’ll join the league of Paranoid Narcissists; I think they’re the smart ones who didn’t fall for all the social media exposure s##$$#! 🙂

  12. LizZ H. says:

    WOW!! Those are all pretty much bang on to most people I know!

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